I have an opportunity right now to do something that will propel my life and career to a whole new level. It will take me from behind the keyboard and into the spotlight of critics, people with a lot of power, people I admire and the masses.
It’s a dangerous crossroads in a lot of ways. There’s a lot that could go wrong. Normally I am full of belief, but in the last few days, I’ve had my doubts.
Maybe I shouldn’t aim so high so quickly. Maybe I will get distracted from what I really love doing. Maybe I don’t have the skills just yet.
What you’re hearing here is the thoughts of a stock standard, off the shelf, pink brain that was designed hundreds of years ago for a different purpose.
None of these thoughts are valid unless I accept they are.
Seeing what you are capable of becoming requires a few key steps. Then becoming it is the hardest part.
Here’s how to see what you can become and then actually become it:
“This is not gospel talk. I didn’t pull this one out of the pages of a hymn book. Until you can see what you are able to become, no one else can see it”
There’s an element of visualization required here. Ask yourself the question “What if there were no barriers and I could achieve anything?”
I want you to assume this is the case. To see what you are able to become you must see it first without barriers, negative thinking, and outside opinions.
Once you can see what you can become, you then have to start believing. That requires you to see a positive outcome and have the courage to dare to do something phenomenal.
Believing first requires a degree of ignorance. In a way, I suppose you are ignoring logic. You are being somewhat irrational and not using common sense. You’re using belief to see a future version of yourself that achieves something meaningful to you, and to those who are inspired by your work.
Make it really big.
The next step is to dream really big. Our mind often constrains us and forces us to focus on what we’ve done in the past as the basis for what we can become in the future.
The stupid thing is that past results don’t necessarily predict the future. If that were true, we’d all bet on the stock market based on what has happened before and we’d be millionaires sipping mojitos off the bar of our luxury yachts.
Making your dream really big is art. Your imagination that has been mostly switched off since you were a child and the creativity that has been sucked out of you by society needs to be reignited for the dreaming element of your mind to be turned on again and lit on fire baby!
If you aim really high and think you can deliver a speech in front of 50,000 people and then you fall short and deliver an inspiring speech in front of 2000 people, have you really failed?
The obvious answer is no. At least you got out of your warm bed and took a chance. Maybe there were a lot of seats empty but you at least influenced one person in a positive way.
“Giving it a shot is half the game of life”
Disconnect from the result.
Being fixated on the result stops you from ever taking the first step. I’ve been so focused in the last week on whether I can deliver and whether I have the experience to do something audaciously big that I didn’t take action.
I was blindsided by fear even though I knew my own fears better than my own body.
Fear has been the thing that nearly ruined my life and prevented me from typing these very words. In some ways, it’s because I can smell the perfume of fear and see it a mile away with my Superman’s eyes, that I’m able to see what’s really going on, not only in my life but the lives of others.
Never giving it a go is a far bigger failure than trying something and not succeeding. Not taking a chance and not risking it all for the person you’ve always wanted to become is something you’ll regret for the rest of your life.
Right up until the day of your death you’ll regret not knowing what could have happened if you saw what you were capable of, took a moon-shot opportunity and became that person.
“Regret is far worse than failure will ever be”
Be okay with not knowing a hell of a lot.
Part of the battle of seeing what you can become and then becoming it is that there is a lot you won’t know. The person I want to become in the coming weeks and months, and the opportunity I’m scared to say yes to have a lot to do with the core issue: I have no idea whether I can deliver on my promise.
I have no clue if I am this person that people think I am on the internet. Do I really inspire people? Or do I get inspired by other people and use that as fuel to pass it on?
We’ll never know the answers to these questions. We all have doubts and pieces to the puzzle of life that we can’t figure out.
In the end, there are only a few harsh truths:
- You must say yes to big opportunities
- You must not overthink every decision
- You must not try to have all the answers
- You must not continually play out every scenario in your head thus draining your energy
All you can do is have guts, to believe in yourself, have the courage and become who you’re truly capable of becoming through relentless action